[listeners: emmanuella, josie, adrian, priscilla... sometimes meng kin]

1. Keeping thoughts of the past or old mind sets is actually a trap that you fall into to prevent

yourself from fulfilling your destiny.

2. We must be willing to put something down to embrace something better.

3. Thinking negatively makes small matters seem big. When you magnify an object, it's size

doesn't change.. only your angle of perspective of that object will.

4. You think you're in love when the handsome guy swaggers in front of your eagle eyes, but

sorry to intros kept it- you're just in love with the idea of being in love.

5. The first type of love in a person's life is called Eros. The boy is captivated by a beautiful girl

and the girl by a handsome boy. He or she is taken up with this person's interiority as

incarnated in physical beauty of that person. But to be truly in love,

however, means something more than just Eros.

6. Emotions and feelings are our passions. Passions are considered to be lower powers

of our soul. They are said to be controlled by the higher power -- will. The first and

foremost passion is love- a sensual love aroused by the stimulation of the senses. It is 'sensual'

because it has its beginning and end in the senses.

7. And because it is sensual it has its limitation- it will at some time reach

its saturation point. For this reason overwrought emotion - the essence of puppy

love - will leave you spent, drained, after a short while. For your emotions, stimulated by your

senses, can take so much and no more.This limitation accounts for the swiftness

with which puppy love dwindles once it has reached its peak.

8. "Love is blind." It is true in the sense that love is an affective

phenomenon. The affectivity can help us to understand another but it can also obscure the

issue. This can be dangerous if it leads to marriage, because daily life together will demonstrate

to each the realising of the other's personality.

9. On the other hand, mature love contains, absorbs and purifies this

sensual love. It can never reach the point where it can have too much love. True, it

begins in the senses, arouses pleasurable emotions, it readily recognises the physical attraction

and outward charm, but it does not stop there.

10.It pursues further ; it looks into the character - into

the very soul of the one loved.

What mature love finds, must equal and surpass the charm and

beauty which first attracted it.

11. If mature love is disappointed at what it finds in an other's character, the very

disappointment exerts a shattering effect. The physical beauty and outward charm

begin to lose their hold on mature love.

BUT when mature love finds the inward beauty then the will, the loving

power, loves with a great intensity.